When News Hits Home (UPDATED)
(UPDATE: Unhappy ending.)
Why is the Kim`s story getting to me so much? I`m glad the mom and kids are safe, and I hope they find the dad alive soon -- but I can usually resist the urge to follow up on every sad news story.
This time, though, there`s a very prosaic reason why I keep checking for news: James Kim looks a little like Hub, before Hub grew his beard. He`s an Asian guy married to a white woman, just like Hub, and their kids look a little bit like our kids.
So of course now I`m imagining Hub lost in the woods.
And somehow, because of this, I`m having trouble staying angry at Hub.
I told you all I was angry at him, right? Last week and through the weekend, he was entertaining guests from Japan, meaning he stayed out late and ate at nice restaurants.
"I`m really getting sick of this," I said to him.
"Oh, you go out sometimes, too!" he said, which was a dumb thing for him to say, because I don`t.
"WHEN?!?"
"Um........."
Finally, he said, "Well, you go swimming all the time!"
Yeah, I go swimming at the YMCA two or three times a week at most, usually on weekdays before he comes home from work. I still can`t believe he said that.
Mostly, though, I was pissed off at him because the woman in charge of games at the Christmas fair asked him to make balloon animals for the little kids again, as he did last year, and....he refused.
"You`re doing so much for that event that I shouldn`t have to do anything at all," he said, pointing to the mounds of cookies and brownies and cakes I`d been churning out for it --- which is so not the point.
But now I`m imagining our family stuck in a car in the woods. I don`t know the Kims personally (though since he`s a journalist, I bet I know people who know him), but if it were Hub and I, our last conversation would certainly have been an argument.
"Stay in the car! I`m sure they`re looking for us by now -- we should just stay together until they find us!" I would have pleaded. "Don`t go!"
"Aho!" Hub would have called me, which loosely means "idiot" in the Japanese Kansai dialect that only comes out of his mouth when he`s mad. He would have insisted on going for help -- nothing I could have said would have stopped him.
I hope they find James Kim soon. I mean, everyone does -- even people who aren`t wasting their time projecting their own lives onto his.
(Here`s the link to the Kim`s guestbook, in case anyone wants to sign it: http://www.jamesandkati.com/guestbook/)
Why is the Kim`s story getting to me so much? I`m glad the mom and kids are safe, and I hope they find the dad alive soon -- but I can usually resist the urge to follow up on every sad news story.
This time, though, there`s a very prosaic reason why I keep checking for news: James Kim looks a little like Hub, before Hub grew his beard. He`s an Asian guy married to a white woman, just like Hub, and their kids look a little bit like our kids.
So of course now I`m imagining Hub lost in the woods.
And somehow, because of this, I`m having trouble staying angry at Hub.
I told you all I was angry at him, right? Last week and through the weekend, he was entertaining guests from Japan, meaning he stayed out late and ate at nice restaurants.
"I`m really getting sick of this," I said to him.
"Oh, you go out sometimes, too!" he said, which was a dumb thing for him to say, because I don`t.
"WHEN?!?"
"Um........."
Finally, he said, "Well, you go swimming all the time!"
Yeah, I go swimming at the YMCA two or three times a week at most, usually on weekdays before he comes home from work. I still can`t believe he said that.
Mostly, though, I was pissed off at him because the woman in charge of games at the Christmas fair asked him to make balloon animals for the little kids again, as he did last year, and....he refused.
"You`re doing so much for that event that I shouldn`t have to do anything at all," he said, pointing to the mounds of cookies and brownies and cakes I`d been churning out for it --- which is so not the point.
But now I`m imagining our family stuck in a car in the woods. I don`t know the Kims personally (though since he`s a journalist, I bet I know people who know him), but if it were Hub and I, our last conversation would certainly have been an argument.
"Stay in the car! I`m sure they`re looking for us by now -- we should just stay together until they find us!" I would have pleaded. "Don`t go!"
"Aho!" Hub would have called me, which loosely means "idiot" in the Japanese Kansai dialect that only comes out of his mouth when he`s mad. He would have insisted on going for help -- nothing I could have said would have stopped him.
I hope they find James Kim soon. I mean, everyone does -- even people who aren`t wasting their time projecting their own lives onto his.
(Here`s the link to the Kim`s guestbook, in case anyone wants to sign it: http://www.jamesandkati.com/guestbook/)
posted by L. at 10:28 AM
9 Comments:
For some reason, I have been really closely following the Kims' story too, and I also think it has to do with the fact that Boyfriend is Chinese and I'm white. Also, Boyfriend is really into tech stuff/gadgets like James Kim. I'm kind of glad to see that someone else is inexplicably worrying like I am!
Oh, and I also thought Boyfriend would be the type to ignore my sobbing pleas and would march off looking for help. But when I told him that they found Kati and the girls but that James had gone for help, he said, "Stupid! Everyone knows you should stick together!" Maybe Hub would do the same. :)
Oh, how very very sad & tragic...
Words fail me!
I actually hadn't really saw it until today. Very sad. I think you should let it go. Be glad you and hub and are alive to fight another day.
Dunno why, but this one has gotten to me, too. Perhaps because I read a bunch of bloggers who actually do know him?
I'm very sad that it's ended the way it did.
This story literally made me sick to my stomach. That family was so brave.
We took the story to heart quite a bit over here, too. I have tried to distract myself with the standard highway fatalties widely available. But it isn't helping
Words fail me. I hadn't been reading much online as of late and found out about this from your site.
I've been paralyzed with sadness since. My heart aches for his widow and the rest of the family, and the two children who are about the same age as mine. Incredibly painful even for a stranger like me, I can't fantom the pain of his friends and family are experiencing, and what must have raced through his mind at his last hours on earth...
"Stupid! Everyone knows you should stick together!"
Well, maybe not after 9 days of being stuck out in freezing weather and out of warmth and food...with no search party being sent out for you yet...
So sad...what a brave man!!!
So...anybody know any good single Asian men?
This totally bothered me too, for much the same reasons. (DH looks like Kim, I'm a haole woman married to an Asian man too...) It really really bothered me. What made it worse is that DH is a big CNET fan, and very recently actually introduced me to watching Kim talk about the Zune.
Truly sad. His poor family. :(
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