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Hub and I can`t seem to stop talking about the sad James Kim story.
Well, talking is the wrong word -- we`ve been arguing about it.
As Hub likes to point out, he hates driving in snow, and he is very leery about driving on back country roads -- he prefers to stay on the beaten path, even if it takes longer to get somewhere.
"We never would have been in their position. We never will be stranded like that, because we just don`t go to places like that," he keeps saying, and he is correct.
Kim physically resembled Hub, who is also an Asian man and has the exact same eyeglasses. I think Hub is trying to point as much dissimilarity between himself and the dead man as he possibly can, in a futile attempt to deny his own mortality. Yes?
Anyway, the main crux of our argument is that IF we were ever in that situation (and we won`t be, he keeps saying), it would make more sense for ME, not HIM, to go for help.
"You`re more outdoorsy," he said. "Plus, you could live off your fat for weeks."
"Look who`s talking! You`ve got just as much spare body fat as I do! Would you really push me out of the car, and make me go for help?"
"I would stay with the kids! What if I went, and fell into a river? I`m not a good swimmer! You should go because you`re a better swimmer!"
"So you would really push me out of the car?"
"No, you would willingly go to save your children, as any good parent would."
"While you would willingly stay in the car?"
"Someone has to stay with the kids -- I would stay. You would go for help."
I don`t mean to make it sound as if we`re making fun of the Kim`s tragic situation at all -- we`re not. Both of us were deeply upset by their story, and its horrible ending.
But we really do fight about the weirdest things sometimes.
Well, talking is the wrong word -- we`ve been arguing about it.
As Hub likes to point out, he hates driving in snow, and he is very leery about driving on back country roads -- he prefers to stay on the beaten path, even if it takes longer to get somewhere.
"We never would have been in their position. We never will be stranded like that, because we just don`t go to places like that," he keeps saying, and he is correct.
Kim physically resembled Hub, who is also an Asian man and has the exact same eyeglasses. I think Hub is trying to point as much dissimilarity between himself and the dead man as he possibly can, in a futile attempt to deny his own mortality. Yes?
Anyway, the main crux of our argument is that IF we were ever in that situation (and we won`t be, he keeps saying), it would make more sense for ME, not HIM, to go for help.
"You`re more outdoorsy," he said. "Plus, you could live off your fat for weeks."
"Look who`s talking! You`ve got just as much spare body fat as I do! Would you really push me out of the car, and make me go for help?"
"I would stay with the kids! What if I went, and fell into a river? I`m not a good swimmer! You should go because you`re a better swimmer!"
"So you would really push me out of the car?"
"No, you would willingly go to save your children, as any good parent would."
"While you would willingly stay in the car?"
"Someone has to stay with the kids -- I would stay. You would go for help."
I don`t mean to make it sound as if we`re making fun of the Kim`s tragic situation at all -- we`re not. Both of us were deeply upset by their story, and its horrible ending.
But we really do fight about the weirdest things sometimes.
posted by L. at 4:16 PM
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The outcome of the Kim's wrong turn has caused some stir in many relationships, including my own. After the news come out that James was found, i called Boyfriend to let him know (we had been following the story and very concerned)and asked him what he would do. Before he could answer I said "you would NOT leave me there" and he replied with a "no, of course not" and continued with what his plan would be. We talked at length about what we both would do and had a few disagreements about strategy.
Today while traveling upstate we were again talking about it as we were in the mountains. If anything good could come out of this horrible tragedy is the amount of discussion it has created. We will be getting supplied for our cars as we will be traveling to the mountains more often and have better knowledge of what to do in the event we did get stranded.
More hope for the future is the idiot(s) who cut the chain and opened the gate are found and peace for the kim family.
You are the bravest woman in bloggerdom... and smart, too. Not necessarily a weird argument but certainly circuitous.
Y'know, I've been reading HSH for several months, and the first thing I happened to read about Hub was in relation to one of the strange foot-in-mouth things he said to you. I was appalled, at the time, and thought, "How can he say that? Why isn't she upset?"
Now that I've been reading a while longer, and feel like I've gotten to "know" the two of you a little better, I just think this is a hoot. Actually, I did hoot, and caused my own husband to wander over to the computer. He wanted to know what was so funny, but I don't think I could explain it. It just sounds very much like an argument I'd expect to read about from you two.
It's so frightening to read about the Kims' situation and wonder what we'd do in the same circumstance. I don't blame Hub for wanting to think it couldn't ever happen to him, even though we really never know what we will be up against. I am glad my family is all safe, and we've never had to make a decision like that.
I should start blogging more about the rediculously stupid thing Hub and I argue about. My blog might get more interesting. hmm
and I am sorry I missed your B-Day
Happy Late B-Day L!!!!!!!!
I have to say L, I think your changes of survival would be higher if you went. Sorry, siding with Hub here. hahaha
I have a reoccuring dream-fight with my husband where we are in a ranch-style house during a tornado.
He is standing in front of the siding glass door watching the tornado as it comes closer and closer. I am screaming at the top of my lungs for him to get away from the window. Each time I have this dream, I wake up angry at him.
When I first heard about the Kim tragedy, I immediately thought about the tornado dream.
Why a tornado? I live on the east coast, in a rather hilly area with almost no chance of ever seeing a tornado. I don't live in a ranch-house or have a sliding glass door.
Ugh. The whole story is just horrid. He made the wrong decision to leave the car, but that's only in hindsight. At the time, they had been in the car for almost a week, with no help in sight, and I've read other stories where the only reason the folks survived was BECAUSE someone left the family and went for help. So it's impossible to second guess what the right thing to do would be. Maybe to stay on a major highway in bad weather, but they had no way of knowing that that road was officially closed, and some asshole bastard fucktards had cut the chain, probably to do a little illegal hunting in early November. Not that I'm mad at them or anything.
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